But he concluded I was angry with him, texted me an upset-sounding apology. He worried that it was his “fault” and that I wouldn’t want to be friends anymore. You are allowed to come out as bisexual in your late 20s. You are allowed to come out as bisexual if you’re only attracted to one of your friends named Greg and haven’t first run a hypothetical attraction test on all the other men in the world. Asking a friend to go out with you is not hurtful. It’s a risk, I suppose, in the sense that asking out anyone is a risk, but it’s not such an inherently risky proposition that you shouldn’t do it. Talk to Greg in person, make it clear that the morning-after work emergency was real and terribly timed and not just an excuse to avoid having a post-sex conversation with him. Tell him that you’re attracted to him, that you care about him, and that you would be interested in going on a date or having sex again or whatever else you’re interested in exploring with him, then ask him how he feels. You don’t need to preface your feelings with speculation about his, like, “I know you probably don’t want to date anyone so soon after your breakup” or “Sarah thinks you’ve been in love with me for years.” He knows that you haven’t dated guys before, so you can let him decide whether that’s a “risk” he cares to run. I hope it goes well, and keep us updated! You don’t have to take yourself out of romantic contention just because he’s the first man you’ve slept with. Should we break up? I’ve been dating “Sam” for about 10 months.
It’s my longest relationship and his longest relationship even though I’m 27 and he’s 33. When we first started dating, we used to see each other about twice a week. We both have busy jobs but made time for each other. He’s never been a very good texter, but in the past few months now I see him about once or twice a month. His job got crazy busy after he got promoted. Seven people have quit his company in the past couple months because it made them work late and on weekends. On the one hand, I understand that Sam is overworked, and he’s also introverted, so he likes to have time alone on weekends.